Ask for Feedback With One Example Request

How am I doing invites vagueness.

Two ways people handle Ask for Feedback With One Example Request — and which ages better after month three.

Honeymoon way

Chase prestige, over-research, assume energy stays high. Photographs well; collapses on rainy Tuesdays.

Resident way

Ask what to keep and what to change on one recent deliverable.

Default near home. Accept good enough. Leave room for overtime and weather.

How to switch

1. Admit what you optimized for (status vs sleep).
2. Choose one default for thirty days.
3. Tell one person so you stop renegotiating alone.

Pick the second unless you have a real reason not to.

Do one concrete step this week. Consistency beats intensity here.