Feeds can be noisy without the person being the problem.
This is a longer take on Mute Moments Without Ending Friendships for people living in Chengdu — not collecting weekend trophies.
What actually matters
Mute liberally; keep chats open; unmute when you miss them.
Not "what's best in the city," but what survives your real week — budget, commute, kids, temperament.
A workable approach
One primary option, one backup, and a phone note with the Chinese name so you stop reinventing this.
- Repeatable on a tired Tuesday
- Close enough that travel friction doesn't kill it
- Cheap enough in attention, not only money
Common stumble
Treating this like a scavenger hunt. Residents need defaults; tourists can afford chaos.
If a plan only works when you're energetic and the sky is perfect, it isn't a plan.
Do one concrete step this week. Consistency beats intensity here.
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